Who is behind It?
We are Jennyfer and Jessyca, two cheerful souls with a vision to transform the world of twins. We share our experiences as twins and emphasize how important it is for twins to lead independent, happy lives—detached and still connected! This article is all about who we are, what our twin relationship has been like so far, and what ultimately led to our current vision. Enjoy reading! 😊
Being an Identical Twin: A Curse and a Wonderful Blessing
Let’s start at the very beginning: from birth, we were different—we came as a duo. We quickly attracted attention, were dressed alike, constantly compared and became well-known in the village. We were inseparable: we ate the same food, read the same books and played with the same toys. We went to kindergarten, the same school class and even pursued the same business studies program at the same university. We always had a companion on each others side. We shared everything and made sure each of us got the same-sized slice of the cake 😊.
It all seemed perfect! But not entirely. Birthdays came with a shared cake—not like others who got one all to themselves! That’s just how it was for us. Being a twin was both, a curse and a blessing.
Physical Separation vs. Personal Boundaries as Twins
Until adulthood, we followed the same path. People often advised us to take separate directions. Deep down, we knew we wanted to differentiate ourselves from each other. We pursued the same career interests but tried to work for different employers, choose different hobbies and occasionally lived in separate locations, even countries. Yet, this didn’t protect us from the truth:
We realized far too late that we never had the opportunity to develop individual personalities. We lived too much as a twin unit. Physical separation was a desperate attempt to change this. It gave us the illusion—or perhaps we tried to prove—that we could live apart. It worked only because, deep down, we knew it was temporary. We always expected to reunite eventually.
Now we know: physical separation is useless if neither of us knows how to establish boundaries or knows their individual being without the other.
The Longing for Individuality
But how? The call for individuality grew louder, especially for Jessyca. Outwardly, we were a great team. We cared for each other, offered support and provided stability. But inwardly, being twins became increasingly challenging. Jessyca grew tired of comparisons, especially as an adult. She longed to explore something entirely different, build a life elsewhere and perhaps follow her heart to warmer places.
Eventually, the desire to chart her own course without Jennyfer became overwhelming. But expressing this was nearly impossible at the time—it took years to find the courage, mainly out of fear of causing pain.
The Fear of Being Left Behind by Your Twin
On the other hand, Jennyfer felt like she was always walking in Jessyca’s footsteps. Jessyca often led the way with ideas and decisions, assuming what was good for her would be good for Jennyfer too. While it wasn’t questioned for a long time, the growing tension became undeniable. The familiar twin bubble became suffocating and Jennyfer feared that Jessyca’s transformation would leave her behind.
Breaking Away from the Twin Bond
One of us had to take the first step and Jessyca did. She embarked on her own journey—the most important of her life. Her path led to a monastery, where she trained as a business coach, initially to work on her own issues. There, she met a mentor who still guides her today.
The transformation was visible and tangible. Jessyca met new people, explored new topics and began to speak in the first person. This caused tension between us, as we no longer agreed on everything. But Jessyca knew she had to stay true to her path. The journey to herself also meant breaking away from her twin sister—the journey to becoming an independent personality.
No Twin Transformation Without the Other
Our twin relationship was at risk. Jennyfer felt left behind, spending sleepless nights pondering, “Who am I without my twin?” The answer layed deep within: Self-Trust. Trust in herself and in life. But how to access it?
The seed was planted and her journey of self-discovery began. Through books, podcasts and online seminars, Jennyfer explored topics like self-awareness, self-trust, and values. The key was self-transformation.
We realized: no twin transformation happens without the other. Only by discovering ourselves individually we could reconnect meaningfully.
I Know Exactly What You Mean!
Getting to know ourselves meant being honest. Each of us had a coach and mentor supporting us, which was incredibly enriching. But when it came to our deep connection and communication as twins, we often felt misunderstood. Non-twins simply couldn’t grasp it.
Our countless conversations were filled with tears and uncertainty. There were no literatures or resources to guide us. We kept going, knowing that overcoming our fears and blockages would eventually lead to lightness.
We discussed, debated, and found freedom. It wasn’t easy. But the more compassion and understanding we developed for ourselves, the more we could extend it to each other. One day, during a conversation, the question arose:
“How do other twins handle this? Surely, we’re not the only ones facing these challenges!”
We realized that what would have helped us most was someone saying, “I know exactly what you mean,” and truly understanding it.
Together, It’s Easier!
We want these aspects of the life of twins to be voiced and addressed. Every twin who resonates with our story and asks similar questions about their twin experience is welcome to join us on this journey.
Through our shared experience, we’ve paved the way: out of twin symbiosis and into an independent and still connected twins relationship. This is the true essence of being a twin!
The foundation of Twins Essence was laid long ago. It took our experiences to transform this vision into reality. Today, we know wonderful people who are also identical twins. We’ve learned how vital it is to have guidance from someone who truly understands the twin dynamic like no one else can—someone who can support both sides in overcoming fears, doubts, and insecurities.
Yours,
Jennyfer & Jessyca

Jennyfer & Jessyca
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